WHAT'S REAL WITH NADINE CERFF
by Aidan Encarnacao·
What's your favorite color?
I tend to not refer to things as my favourite because I grow in and out of things and it changes almost every time but at the moment it’s green.
What's your favorite go to recipe?
Don’t entirely have a “recipe” but my go to snack is avocado toast or two minute noodles and a slice of bread.
What self-care habits do you intertwine into your daily routine?
I try and take care of my skin on the outside and inside, we have a love hate relationship (I’m the one that loves it, it hates me.)
What's your favorite book and what book had the largest impact on you?
The Book of Awakening and The new model of the Universe at the moment. It has impacted me by learning new things about my being and kinda helped me understand my own theories and perspectives on certain things, it was nice that I kinda met the person I always knew I'd become.
Who can you talk to when you need to get something off your chest?
My boyfriend, he's always making me feel better when I cant sit with myself, he has a huge impact on the way I see things and I'm grateful.
Where's your safe place?
My boyfriend’s place, I can just escape from my own mind and toxic surroundings.
Have you ever dealt with anxiety? if so, what triggers it & how do you calm your mind?
I use to have random anxiety triggers especially clustered places, I enjoy being in my own space so I use to get triggered thinking about that but I’ve learnt that we all feel that way and you draw that attention on yourself. I don’t give things the attention to affect me negatively, I feel like once you give something your attention you allow it inside to rewire your mind and that’s when you allow it to take over you.
Have you or someone you love ever been in a dark place? if so what steps were taken to get out?
I mean, I think we’ve all been in dark places and we don’t realise we are the light. We’re so use to staying in comfort zones that we’d rather be in the light because it's something familiar to us but change of scenery can be good and bad. It's important to not allow the darkness put that light within yourself out, I think it’s important to visit the dark and fill that whole place with light when you enter that mindset.
Do you think social media affects your mental health or has any negative impacts on you? if so, how do you best deal with it?
I’ve never let social media define me, I see how it defines people these days and it gives people this front on standards of beauty, gender in fashion and how social media is trying to create this space where everyone’s just passive viewers. It tries to normalize what’s happening in the world and that people will no longer have the conscious and heart on what’s wrong in the world, I think the best way is to always keep an open mind and allow people to be themselves and not only on social media but in reality too, allow someone to walk out not in the fear of how they look and what people are going to say. Once you give attention to things you will attract it.
What's the biggest change you can identify within yourself in the past year?
This year I’ve had a lot of growing within myself mentally, I’ve learned a lot about the who I am as an “individual” as people- you don’t always get to express their individuality because people are threatened that someone can know who the f*ck they are.
What changes do you want to see within yourself in the coming year?
Just keep learning and unlearning, energy flows where attention goes just enjoy the ride.
What's one of the hardest things you've had to go through in life? how did you get through it?
Feeling like an outsider everywhere- family, friends, crowds and just feeling like you don’t belong but I enjoy being different. I like that I express my individualism and I’d like to express it with more people together as themselves, like you can express your individualism with people who are on the same page and don’t find you weird for doing that.
What advice would you give to your 16- year-old self?
“You dance to the beat of “your” own drum “( I never knew that it was about myself but my friend kinda phrased it just perfect for me) also that you’re doing your best so stop overthinking and overanalysing your life.
What's the most valuable lesson you've learnt?
-The world doesn’t feel sorry for you
-Time still goes on and you don’t have much of it
-Love yourself enough to choose yourself
-Energy flows where attention goes
If you could change one thing within society, what would that be?
I can’t choose one thing because there’s a whole lot of stuff that NEEDS TO BE CHANGED!
-How women are seen inferior and inequality of us
-Social constructs on gender, sexuality, race